Sometimes, a brew with your bestie can reveal something more. If you are concerned a friend or family member is experiencing domestic abuse, here are some tips on how to start a conversation.
Be safe
Make sure you’re in a safe location, where it’s unlikely to be overheard.
Be curious
Ask questions like ‘You haven’t seemed yourself, is everything OK?’
Listen
Listen to what they have to say- avoid judgements and stereotypes. Let them know the abuse is not their fault and they’re not alone.
Believe them
Let them know that you believe what they say and you’re on their side.
Ask
Ask them how they want you to help- some may want practical help, others may just need to know you’re there to listen.
We can help
Encourage them to speak to us. We can help anyone experiencing domestic abuse
The time might not be right
But if they don’t want to… respect that decision also and keep talking to each other. It might not be the right time for them, there may be other factors going on. Understand also that you are not responsible for your friend. The choices they make are theirs alone.
Don’t confront the abuser
Your safety matters. Don’t confront anyone, or let the abuser know you’ve spoken about what’s going on. Keep yourself safe so you can help.
On International Women’s Day, there will be 32 incidents of domestic abuse reported to police, but we know many will go unreported. We can help.
On the 8th March we’re asking you to pledge to have a Brew With Your Bestie, then donate the cost of the brew to us.