Sometimes, a brew with your bestie can reveal something more. If you are concerned a friend or family member is experiencing domestic abuse, here are some tips on how to start a conversation.
Be safe
Make sure you’re in a safe location, where it’s unlikely to be overheard.
Be curious
Ask questions like ‘You haven’t seemed yourself, is everything OK?’
Listen
Listen to what they have to say- avoid judgements and stereotypes. Let them know the abuse is not their fault and they’re not alone.
Believe them
Let them know that you believe what they say and you’re on their side.
Ask
Ask them how they want you to help- some may want practical help, others may just need to know you’re there to listen.
We will help.
Call us- 0808 2800 999
Our helpline is completely free and confidential, and the call will not show up on itemised bills.
The time might not be right
But if they don’t want to… respect that decision also and keep talking to each other. It might not be the right time for them, there may be other factors going on. Understand also that you are not responsible for your friend. The choices they make are theirs alone.
Don’t confront the abuser
Your safety matters. Don’t confront anyone, or let the abuser know you’ve spoken about what’s going on. Keep yourself safe so you can help.
You can help
You can make a difference to women’s lives by donating to Staying Put and enabling us to continue supporting people experiencing domestic abuse.