Support for male survivors
1 in 7 men will experience domestic abuse in their lifetime. There are many reasons men find it hard to access domestic abuse support including:
Not realising that what they are experiencing is domestic abuse
Domestic abuse being perceived as a gendered crime, with male perpetrators and female victims
Resources being aimed at women, meaning there is little support for men
Fears that if they do report the abuse, nothing will happen or that they will be seen as the abuser
Fears around what speaking up will do to their family and access to their children
Fears around masculinity and how men experiencing domestic abuse will be perceived by their family, friends and professionals
Read more about how our Male IDVA supports people
We understand that if you are a male victim of domestic violence, it can feel incredibly difficult to open up and tell someone about what you are experiencing. We provide support to all people who are experiencing domestic violence.
We don't judge, stereotype or look at gender. Whilst our workforce are predominantly female, they are trained to take calls from male survivors.
We are here to help. We listen, we believe, we act.
It's not just you.
Did you know, thanks to Clare's Law, you have the right to ask if your partner has an abusive past? Anyone can ask- whether something is off in your relationship or you are a close friend, neighbour or family member.
Men Standing Up - 0300 303 0167, available weekdays 9am to 4:30pm
Respect - 0808 8010327, available weekdays 9am to 8pm
ManKind Initiative - 01823 334244, available weekdays 10am to 4pm
We are also here for you if you have experienced sexual violence, but if you would prefer to speak to a male-specific charity, contact Survivors UK.
Call for help now
0808 2800 999
Open Monday - Friday 9.30am - 4.30pm (Closed for half an hour at lunch at 1pm)
Our One Front Door helpline is completely free and confidential, and the call will not show up on itemised bills. Read our confidentiality policy here.
Leave the abuse, not your home
"The day I rang for help [was] the day I realised it was time for me to leave...The day I was accepted [to refuge] I had my full life in four bin bags and some toys I managed to grab." Kayleigh.
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